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    The Missing Link —”EATING MY SECRETS” 2019.  We are a country obsessed with weight. We are a country obsessed with food. We are a country obsessed with thinness.  We can’t stop talking about it. For some it is non-stop, making food the enemy.We are doomed when a morsel of forbidden food hits our lips. Carbs are making us fat. Fats are making us fat. Soda is making us fat. Video games are making us fat. Oprah is losing weight; Oprah is gaining weight. The government has declared a war on obesity. The medical industry does not have answers. We hate fat people, we hate ourselves for being fat. Diets are everywhere telling us how to eat, live and think.  The more we talk and think about it,…

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    Is FEELING FAT real?

      Have you ever felt fat? If so, join the millions of women of all shapes/sizes who go through this torture on a daily basis.    So you lost weight and try on some new clothes in a smaller size, GREAT! However,  you still have those thoughts of feeling fat. YOU hate everything in the store.  You have to lie on the bed because you cannot zipper a pair of pants that fit yesterday due to water retention, or perhaps your hormones are fluctuating and everything feels tight and doesn’t look good. Too many carbs getting the best of you?  This mental torture will snowball into thoughts of ‘I am ugly, fat and nobody loves me’ and this can lead…

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    DIETING, DIETING, will I ever feel better?

    When Twiggy made her debut in America decades ago,  she changed the culture of American women and how they viewed themselves. Prior to us seeing her emaciated skinny almost boyish body women were curvy and voluptuous. Women embraced their curves, but since then, women have been clamoring to find the perfect avenue to thinness and a slender body. To my knowledge, this behavior does not seem to be stopping any time soon.  Every day millions of women are on some “DIET” or ridiculous food program in order to feel better about themselves. For most women, the learning curve of feeling great centers around how much they weigh or what size they are. Losing weight makes some women feel like they won an Oscar, while for others the satisfaction of weight loss is only…

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    Should I get weighed every day?

    Many years ago, as a personal trainer I had a client who eventually became a very close friend. After a few months of training her, she revealed to me that as a teenager her mother made her get weighed every day. She exposed that she remembered this ritual like it was yesterday. Needless to say, most of her eating, food and self-esteem issues all revolved around that 3-5 minutes a day.  This paralyzed  her for many years, as she isolated herself from the outside world. She had tremulous fear of eating in public and that most of the time those emotions and thoughts overwhelmed her. Her mother would constantly tell her that she needed to be thin in order to get a boyfriend and that men did…

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    Why do we Sabotage ourselves?

    QUESTION: I have been eating healthy and feeling great about my food choices for a little over a month. I have not binged and have eaten foods that really made me feel better. Then after getting weighed, I realized I lost over 10 pounds and had a meltdown. I began slipping back to my old ways and it took a toll on me emotionally.  I realize that every time I begin to get healthy I get overwhelmed, scared and resort back to my old self. Is this normal and do others experience this?  Susan  ANSWER: In the thirty plus years that I have been training, coaching, mentoring, counseling and running groups with women this question comes up in conversation a lot. Why do women set themselves up for failure and setbacks…