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Should I get weighed every day?

Many years ago, as a personal trainer I had a client who eventually became a very close friend. After a few months of training her, she revealed to me that as a teenager her mother made her get weighed every day. She exposed that she remembered this ritual like it was yesterday. Needless to say, most of her eating, food and self-esteem issues all revolved around that 3-5 minutes a day.  This paralyzed  her for many years, as she isolated herself from the outside world. She had tremulous fear of eating in public and that most of the time those emotions and thoughts overwhelmed her. Her mother would constantly tell her that she needed to be thin in order to get a boyfriend and that men did not want fat women as wives. So, her mother’s solution was to have my client get weighed daily to make sure she stayed THIN. That was her answer, get weighed daily!

That was over 45 years ago but somehow today I am not sure this thinking has changed. Not the boyfriend or husband part, but the part allowing those numbers to dictate us. Many still live within a mindset believing what we weigh might just be the biggest problem and that somehow overcoming those dreaded extra pounds, life will become peachy and the marriage proposals will come flooding our front door.

 Today in most circles the underlying message is clear, be thin at any cost. But I ask, what is that cost? Most times it is emotional and mental torture. My friend talked to me extensively about her issues with food and that food was certainly not the nourishment she needed but the enemy that robbed her a healthy life. Now while you might say that this is an extreme case I ask you to think about your own eating and food issues. Do they revolve around getting weighed daily, once a week, once a month of perhaps you do not get weighed? For some women getting weighed it still a mental ritual, have good weigh in day, I feel great, a bad weigh in day, I feel horrible and a binge might even be on the horizon. Think I am wrong, go sit in any controlled weight loss group such as WEIGHT WATCHERS and observe the members once they come off of the scale. I am not talking about every women, there some who have accepted that we are all not going to be a thin and a single digit. These women understand that they can still be healthy without letting the scale rule  them. Wherever you stand on this podium the fact remains that most women are ruled by the what they weigh, and that list of reasons goes on and on. Although I have not seen my friend for quite some time as our lives took different paths  I sometimes wonder if she got the help she needed, or if she is still ruled by those 3 numbers on that  aluminum flatbed. So, when should you get weighed? That is up to you and while I have nothing against getting weighed just do not let it dictate who you are and rule your life! Have a blessed day!

2 Comments

  • Patricia Morrone

    I started Weight Watchers a few years ago and after 2 meetings I decided I didn’t need to be made to feel bad about myself. The first weigh in was awesome. After that first weigh in, my father in law passed away so my second weigh in was rather dismal. I was made to feel like I failed the program and myself that week. If I wanted to feel bad about myself and my weight, I could just have a conversation with my mother and that would do the job. So, I ditched the program and worked on what was right for me. I don’t weigh myself everyday, maybe every 2 weeks or so and it’s usually first thing in the morning. I am trying very hard to overcome “the scale is public enemy #1” in my mindset.

  • debramazda

    Hi Patricia,

    Thank YOU so much for the wonderful and enlightening comment. YOUR honesty will resonate with women and your thinking is on the right track. Most women have been made to feel less than worthy about themselves when it comes to their weight, age, size and bodies. I want to help women change that emotionally charged negative thinking with positive insight about themselves.

    Hugs, debra

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